Someone had tagged me with this meme ages ago, via email, before I had my blog.  I found it today cleaning out my archives and decided to share it.   

List 3 things..

then..

Tag at least 3 people….

What were  you thinking when you first met your current/most recent main squeeze (husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, significant other, sex partner, WHATEVER!) in SL?

1.  Who is this sexy black cat, I’ll scratch behind those ears.  rawr

2.  OMG I really didn’t just say that to HIM!

3.  Dies of embarassment…

Tagging….

Prad

Ryker

Kitty

Go for it guys!

Those of you who know me know that I co-own the bar the Crown and Pearl with my very good friend Prad Prathivi.

The Crown started as a place to hang out for all of our friends when the Three Lions closed last year.  Prad, Kendra and I had been managers of the pub and decided to open up our own bar so that our friends had someplace to go to just hang out, dance whatever. 

So.. we bought some land, Prad designed(with some input) and built the Crown.  It was quite successful.  We had some live acts and a few nuclear accidents but all in all, a great place.

When I bought Angel Square it made sense to move the Crown.  Why keep paying tier when I owned a sim.  So, earlier this year we moved the Crown to Angel Square where it now resides.  I’ll have to apologize here, I’m writing this from work and don’t have landmarks.   But we’re in search

Prad redecorated the Crown this week.  It looks awesome!  We even have a bar!  Imagine that. lol  So come on by.  There is usually someone DJing from 12pm SLT.  Oh, and for the ladies, Miss Ryker Beck made the most gorgeous exclusive necklace!  And it’s free!!!  It’s sitting on the DJ booth so feel free to grab one when you come by. 

Don’t just grab a necklace and go though.  Stay awhile.  Meet some new people.  You’ll be glad you did.  The Crown has some of the nicest, friendliest folks in SL.  I realize I’m biased but come see for yourself!

I’ll add landmarks to this post later when I get home.

Hottest Male Av round one voting has started.  Go now and vote!  These men are certainly hunky and Praddles is in the running!

So, go vote for him!

*Note:  The owner of this blog is not being paid for this endorsement(although maybe she should be) nor is  she responsible for any damage caused to keyboards and monitors from drooling.  kthx

I’m a SecondLife Mentor and while I don’t get to the Help Islands very often, I do a lot of mentoring just wandering around the grid.  If I feel like being helpful and have a lot of patience, I’ll put my mentor tag on and start wandering.

This is what I decided to do last night.  I decided to take a break from putting Prad’s rezz day presents together and go be helpful.

First stop, NCI South.  Really quiet.  I hardly recognized it from my noob days.  So I wandered around a bit and was stopped by a gentlemen who wanted to know A/S/L.  If you know me, then you know.  If you can read my profile, you know.  If you are 4 days old and ask, I’m not gonna tell ya.  Sorry but some info you really need to work for.   So we chatted a bit.  He asked the typical questions, where to go, what to do, how to get money.  He went on and on about how hawt my Av is.  Asked if these were my RL clothes too.  Yes, I run around in a thong, thigh high boots, micro mini skirt, velvet drape top, ears and a tail.  All the time. Then he asked if there was a way he and I could *interact*.  I had to ask what he meant since we were already chatting.  If your mind is in the gutter, stay there, that’s exactly what he meant. LOL  I coughed and explained the search button would be his gateway to the *adult pleasures*.  Before I could type 3 more letters, poof he’s gone.  Don’t know where he went, but I hope he enjoyed  himself.

Next stop, a LM I was checking out for photo ops.  It was kinda busy and I hadn’t taken my tag off so I immediately got an IM from someone.  *OMG you have to help me* is what I got.  Now when I get this from people I know, I generally chuckle and say ok.  When it’s a total stranger though I get worried.  Seems this girl was being followed by someone in a grim reaper av screaming he had come for her.  Halloween starts earlier and earlier   Anyway, I told her that if he was a problem, she could AR him or, and this was my preferred suggestion, she could just TP away.  She told me she couldn’t leave, that she had to stay there.  Now, tps were working fine, no grid issues that I knew of so I had to ask why she couldn’t leave.  She wanted the stuff in the lucky chair.  She’d been there half an hour already and wasn’t leaving till she got the shiny new thing.  Sigh.  I told her again what her options were regarding the Grim Reaper.  Mute, AR, TP away  She wanted me to orb him away.  Sorry, not my job.  By now she was getting all kinds of angry at me.  ME??!!! I took my own advice and TP’d out of there.

Last stop, Hanja Welcome Area.  I hadn’t been back there since my noob days.  Place  hasn’t changed.  The people have though.  Welcome areas are for new residents.  Older residents come here to hang out and help.  At least that’s how it should be.  Older residents should not be hanging around acting like they own the place.  Really, there were about 5 avs, all a few months old *holding court* complete with bodyguards.  Reading profiles made me cringe.  When the *leader* of this little group has on the main page of his profile *willing raper of women* I get a bit upset.  No, I didn’t AR him, probably should have.  So here is this little group giving out information, wrong information.  So I IM’d a few people and gave them the correct information.  They seemed happy. 

Then I met this one girl who was only a few days old was looking for things to do.  She’d been shopping for freebies only as she had no $L.  I asked what she was interested in, explained search to her.  Gave her a few LMs.  Next thing I know she’s asking me to take  her on a tour of SL.  I gave her the LM to the balloon tour.  Sorry kids but I’m not a tour guide.  I’ll give you landmarks, offer suggestions, help if I can, teach you how to build and even offer a makeover suggestions if your interested. 

My last encounter at Hanja was with a guy who wanted sex.  Sigh.

Chances are really good I’m NOT going to have sex with you if;

… we just met

… you can’t form complete sentences

… your walking around with a freenis sticking 4 feet out of your pants

… you say *have sex?* in any variation/language/form to me

… you ask me for money

The above applies to both men and women. 

That concluded my evening of wandering and being helpful.  I was tired, I went to bed.

Well we finally got the winners announced from the photo contest on The Reach.

Jellix Sugarbeet – Great Ball of Fire

Preeti Inshan – Pocahontas

Aribeth Coronet – Playing the Grass

Well done ladies!!  Thank you to everyone who participated.  Rrish will be contacting the winners to arrange for your landscaping consultations.

Thank you to Rrish and Prad for helping me judge this.  It wasn’t easy!

There will be a new contest coming up at the Crown.  Theme as yet to be determined.  Stay tuned for details though.

Congratulations again to the winners and a  huge thank you to everyone who submitted photos.  You are all incredibly talented!

I hadn’t planned to write here more than once a week.   I honestly didn’t think I’d have enough to say.   It’s been an odd week though.  I’ve been thinking about my friends a lot lately.   Maybe it was Deedee’s passing and reading the eloquent words Kitty wrote that made me really think about my friends.

How do we define a *friend*?   What makes someone go from acquaintance to friend?   Is there a rule like, if you see them/talk to them at least twice a week for more than 15mins they move off the acquaintance list and on to the friend list?   What about the person you talk to every day but never really say anything to?   You know the ones I mean.  Your entire conversation is:   Me:  hey, how are ya?  Them:  great! you?  Me:  fine thanks.. and that’s it.  Is that really a friend?   You talk everyday but what exactly do you know about each other?  What have you actually shared with each other?  I don’t really think of those people as *friends*.   Sure, we are friendly but would I ask them to speak at my funeral?   Probably not.

Those that know me, know that Prad Prathivi and I are very close.  There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for him.  He’s one of the most generous people I’ve met in SL.  So it saddened and angered me to read his blog post today *Used*.   There will always be people who will take advantage of a friendship or even just an acquaintance for their own benefit.   I also know there are those who want certain people on their friends list just so they can say they are there.   The very nature of Prad’s personality makes him and others like him vulnerable to this kind of treatment.   He’s right though; would it kill these people to take a few mins to just chat before asking what they want?  Everyone’s time is worth something.  But if you are going to ask someone to give up theirs for you, at least remember that they are and say thank you, or make an offer of your time to them if they need it.   It’s likely they’ll never ask but it’s the thought, the gesture that counts for something.   At least when it’s genuine.

So, what do you do in that situation?  Ignore them?  Tell the next one who IMs that way how *used* you feel?   Kick them off the friends list?  Mute them?  I doubt I could do any of these things myself.   I’d be too concerned about insulting them by not answering.  But then I tend to put other people’s feelings ahead of my own. 

So, how do you define a *friend*?   I’d love to know what you all think.

HUGS and cuddles to my friends, you all know who you are.

<3 BL