Yeah I know, the title itself suggests drama.  No drama here but I do want to talk about conflict.  Nothing in particular but how we handle conflict.  What we do when we’re confronted by it what makes some of us gravitate to it and the rest run screaming away.  I’m in the later category if you were wondering.

Ok so we all deal with conflict differently.  There are the "fixers" who can’t stand the idea of those close to them not getting along and try to make the situation better for everyone.  Usually to the detriment of the person trying to fix it as many times they are seen as meddling.

There is the debater who it seems will argue just to do it.  They’ll take a contrary position and keep the conflict going for as long as anyone will let them.  The natural reaction to these folks, drop an anvil on their heads.

Then there is the bully who is in the conflict because they enjoy it.  They get a thrill over the heated exchange and potential for violence.  These folks are in it for the long haul and have no intention of letting anyone off easy.  If you find yourself in a situation with one of these, then tread carefully but get yourself out as soon as you can.

Then there is the liar.  This person will say whatever they want in order to win the argument or to ensure you don’t.  The truth is not in their bag of tricks though they may throw it out now and then.

Every conflict will have one of these individuals in it.  It’s how we deal with the conflict and them that’s important.  Now I will say straight out, I hate conflict.  I will run as far away as I can get from it.  When fleeing is not an option however I turn into ms fixit.  My job in all conflicts is to fix it.  Doesn’t matter what it is, or whether I can do anything about it, I will try to fix it.   When all else fails…. I flee.

Flee or fight.  The 2 basic instincts in all of us.  Depending on the threat one or the other is usually the best choice.  In Midian, you see one of the ‘Shadows’ with their rotating orbs of ocularity(or whatever they call them these days) you run.  Plain and simple.  Me, I see a Wolf in the middle of the street and I walk right up to it.  Silly I know but I still have all of my limbs thank you very much.

I’ve seen a number of ‘conflicts’ in Midian.  Some IC and others OOC.  Most of the OOC stems from IC stuff that someone was unhappy about.  Well, you know what…. It’s not a nice city.  Bad things happen to good people.  And even, sometimes, it’s…. a … suprise!  Yes things do happen that aren’t scripted.  If you want to attack me in Midian, then just do it.  If I don’t have time to RP, I’ll RP out of it.  If you want to know how far you can go with the beating me up, IM me.  I have limits as does everyone else.  I think we need more conflict in Midian that isn’t preplanned for months ahead of time.  That kinda of thing is fine when a lot of people are involved but geez…. can’t we have a bit of surprise?

As I mentioned in a previous post, I want to be more assertive.  Being more assertive will mean more conflicts.  More conflict means I can’t keep ‘fleeing’.  …