I haven’t posted here in a long time. I’d gotten out of the habit of blogging and really had nothing much to say. After all, how many times can you say, yep looking for a job. But… I’m working now so yay! It’s not a permanent job yet but it’s looking good. Just have to be patient. That’s really not why I decide to write today. No, I decided to write today in order to publish my thoughts on the past few months. For those that know me, you know I’ve been RPing in Midian City for over a year now. In all that time I’ve met some wonderful people. I’ve learned a lot, have become a better RP’er and writer and I’ve worked hard to create a story for Bails. The past few months haven’t been the easiest for me or for those close to me who have been through it all with me. Here’s my take on things. Now granted, every story has at least two sides. This is my side.
A year ago, Dazy talked me into coming to Midian and joining the Catwalkers. I’d never RP’d before and wasn’t sure if I wanted to but I was looking for something new to do on SL and decided, why not. Around the same time she posted in Midian Chat that she was selling off some of her land and that I had land free on Angel Square. (I still do by the way 
) A few midianites chose to come live on Angel Square. Ioh was one of them. He moved in, we chatted, we RP’d together, we had a connection. We started with an IC relationship between Ioh and Bails. At some point that relationship changed and became an OOC one as well. Bails pledged the Catwalkers and everything was grand. Ioh and I decided that Bails would get pregnant, with twins. An expedited pregnancy for reasons of our own and Bails became a full catwalker. Everything was still grand.
At some point, I don’t know when things between Ioh and I were starting to be not so grand. I’m not going to go into all the details here of what went wrong with our relationship. That’s private and I really resent how much of it is being discussed among people who don’t know me, have never spoken to me and have no interest in knowing the full story. Suffice to say, things were deteriorating. Fast forward to June of 2009. I got laid off at the end of the month. Ioh knew months before that he would no longer have the job he had so come the end of June, he too was out of work.
Being unemployed isn’t easy. Anyone who has been there knows that. It takes all your will just to get out of bed in the morning and make phone calls, send off emails with resumes. I took a couple classes and was doing everything I could to get a job in my field. During the next few months, Ioh and I really did nothing but argue over things. He and I certainly did not see eye to eye on a great many things. The most important of which was the possibility of a RL relationship. I won’t speak for him but I simply couldn’t afford a trip to the West Coast for a visit. I was/am having enough trouble just paying the bills. He suggested I move to the West Coast. My family is here on the East Coast and I wasn’t about to pick up and move across the country. As I said, I’m having enough trouble paying the bills I have, the idea of moving expenses, job hunting in a part of the country I’m totally unfamiliar with, call me a coward but no I wasn’t going to do it. I don’t recall him saying he was looking for jobs on the East Coast, maybe he did. So, our relationship deteriorated further to the point where he gave me an ultimatum.
Now this was the second one he had given me. After the first I told him to NEVER do it again. So, when I got the second one I told him I wasn’t responding to it. He decided to leave the Catwalkers, the Parish and all his groups. He was leaving Midian and SL. This was during the time of his ‘coma’ RP. A RP that I didn’t know anything about until I was told he planned on passing out in the middle of mass, basically keeling over while delivering the Gospel as Deacon. I thought this was a horrible idea and talked him out of it. He and I came up with a new plan and executed it. During the course of the rest of that week he laid in the bed in the med den ‘dreaming’. Most of these dreams were delivered in latin so that most of those in the area had no idea what was being said without a translation. It was uncomfortable but we all did it. Then came the time for him to come out of the coma. Again, we talked about possibilities and a tie in to another RP I was doing with Dazy. Well, none of those possibilities happened. Ioh gave me his ultimatum. He left all the groups. He said he was leaving.
On October 25th around 3am my phone rang a few times. When the phone rings in the middle of the night, your instantly wide awake. Especially when you have parents with health issues. So when I saw the number on my caller ID I didn’t answer it. The next morning I sent Ioh a text stating how unhappy I was with him calling me at 3am. He didn’t think it was a big deal. Though later that day I received an email from him stating that he was in fact leaving Midian and SL and that there would be no more communication with him. Since that email, I haven’t spoken to him.
So, Ioh left Midian, simply disappeared from the Catwalker med den. Bails was left to figure out how to continue her story without him. I talked to a lot of people about it. Got a lot of advice. I chose a path and the others who were involved in our story agreed to go along with it. Some time later Ioh returns to Midian, no memory of who he was but with a deep hatred for the Catwalkers. My choice was to not RP with him based on comments he was making in Flickr, the forum and within Midian Chat. His character and alts decided to push the boundaries of what is acceptable in Midian in relation to faction HQs. At that time I told the catwalkers ‘my’ position and that they could do what they wanted. After speaking with several of them it was becoming obvious that he wasn’t someone they wanted to RP with. Their choice.
Now, in all of this time I have never once publically said anything against Ioh. I’ve never AR’d him. I’ve not commented on his flickr. I’ve not responded to any of his forum posts. Even when I was passing complaints from my cats about him to Midian admins I was still not asking for him to be banned from anywhere. My position, and it still is… if I can ignore him so can anyone else.
Things have gone to far though lately. Between what he said on the forums and what he has said specifically about me in Flickr I’m done keeping quiet. So, this is my side of the story. No, it’s not complete. I’ve left a lot out on purpose. It’s my belief that some things are private and should remain that way. Yes, I loved him. Until recently, I still cared what happened to him and was sad to see what he had resorted to. I’m done though. I’ve had enough. He can say what he wants about me. Call me any names he wants. None of that will change how I felt and the pain I went through. So, if you want to post a comment here, be my guest. It’s not my position to delete posts but I will if your just trolling. Have something constructive to say, a question, a criticism that’s fine but be civil about it.
This isn’t the first time I’ve had to see a friend go through this with Ioh. I doubt it will be the last. Ioh has a over inflated self image combined with a weak will and a deceptive nature. He craves attention and will try to get it anyway he can.
He wants to control and manipulate everyone in his life and when he feels he can’t anymore he discards them and runs away himself. He will then inevitably come back and try to destroy them, emotionally and socially. However like in the past everyone who matters can see right through it.
You are far far better without him, as are the Catwalkers. And really in dealing with him and those like him the best thing you can do is ignore him, cause honestly .. its the thing that will hurt him the most.
A well thought out and worded post, Bails. Opinions on a matter like this should not need to be voiced on public forums, but could be welcome providing they can be done in a civil manner and without insults or malicious intent. Because lets face it, from what we’ve all seen on Flickr and the Midian Forums recently, people obviously cannot express an opinion without such negative traits, thus leading to the sheer size of the drama it’s caused. I’ll admit I’ve had to hold back and bite my tongue on more than one occassion through it all, but I’m very proud of you (and myself >.<) for rising above it. It shows YOU are the stronger person – the adult, a piece of advice you've always given to me and I've always done well by it.
On the other hand, it's also unfair for these people to make such comments about you, your relationship with Ioh, and your RP in Midian without expecting some sort of comment back in return. I hope they at least have the decency to respect that and leave you alone now.
I just wanted to say, and you know this. I am here.
I don’t support the negativity and as Aribeth said, you have done an excellent job of taking the high road.
From having seen everything that happened from day one until day none YOU are the one in the right.
Love you.
Ayami, quit talking in reference of your self as me. That’s pathetic.
This is a warning… if you can’t be civil in your comments I will delete them. I said it in my post and I’m saying it again. Make a civil comment to ME, about MY post or I will delete them.
It was civil, and straight to the point. Everything Ayami says about me, can soo easily be put on him, hir, or whatever that creature is. And really, I don’t care if you do delete. Go ahead and delete this and the other. :p
Ioh: No, what *is* pathetic is you choosing to spout your malicious babble about Midian and various people, like Bails, across public forums – even though you have left the sim! If you’re going to leave, then LEAVE. Does it really require the dramatics that we’ve all had to endure over the last week or two? No.
Oh, and another thing. Why do you feel you need to get your friends to back you up on everything you do and say? For example, I made a passing JOKE comment about the MCCG on your Flickr. As we’ve now established, you’re unable to take a joke, and completely went off the rails at me. Once I was deleted and muted, that wasn’t good enough, but you got Ashur to message me too?! What was all that about, huh? Can you not fight your own battles, Ioh? Because you got her involved, it earned her TWO AR’s for the venom she spouted.
I also found it rather amusing that at that time, she had the nerve to tell me not to speak crap on public forums… yet what is she doing now? LOL.
You’re just digging yourself a bigger and deeper hole, Ioh. And I think that’s the only reason why you’re moving to a blog. Because you’ve cut your ties with everyone on the forum – with a lot of people who followed you Flickr – and you have little place to go to continue your bitching where people will actually listen.
Grow. Up.
jabber jabber jabber of the lesbo? herm lover of the creature ayami. Please, you are all venomous poison. Am more than happy to be rid of you all!
Besides, you the bitch who can’t just shut up, can you, Aribeth? So please. I speak in public, ‘casue I don’t hide behind my friends. Wasn’t that long ago I was a Bailey tard like you, spewing out that same poison to others, thinking I was ‘defending’ her. Fuck that. I’m glad I’m not in the droid army of Bailey drones any more.
What part of ‘grow up’ do you not understand? *rolls eyes*
Thanks for proving everything I said about you to be right, Ioh.
And I will add this .. you are right Ioh, alot of those things could of been applied to me in the past. I was selfish, at times weak willed, and I did run away from my problems.
The difference in you and me is the only person I hated in all that was myself. I didn’t blame others, or try to publicly degrade them. And I’ve worked hard to better myself since.
It takes a weak person to place all their problems on another shoulders. It takes strength to realize your failings are your own.
Oh holy hell Ioh. You are such a small and petty excuse for a man if you are indeed one.
And before you go spouting that I’m in the droid army, I’m sure anyone here can safely refute that.
I’ve turned people to your blog and to Bailey’s here… non Cat-walkers specifically…
“If he put as much effort into roleplaying as he did into ranting and being stupid he’d be Emperor of all Roleplayers by now.”
“Midian is better without him.”
“He’d think that if everyone is telling you that you are wrong…repeatedly..you might just have to face the fact that you actually are.”
and probably the best to sum it up:
“Ugh, that guy”
And as Ayami said, I also have talked to a previous partner of Ioh’s and this isn’t the first time he’s done this…
“I dated him in sl, remember? I already knew he was nucking futs…tell me something I don’t know.”
“When he and I broke up and he was putting me through hell, my friend told him it was her personal and semi professional opinion that he get professional help.”
And in reference to one of your posts on your blog, “Can’t stop stupid?” Yeah, we’ve noticed. Loud and clear mate. Loud… and…. clear.
-m
Hmm, I see a pattern. Aribeth, then the creature Ayami. Oh, and Ayami, what alts are you going to bring into Midian this time the fuck people over with and screw up everyone’s RP hmm? You are a lot of talk, but your actions, both foreground and background speak for themselves.
The only thing my alts ever did was (oh my!) set foot on the Den. And, then get bitched out in IMs because none of you retards can RP out a conflict in IC worth shit.
And Ayami, That’s all you ever -DID- in Midian, place blame, or sabotage people with your alts. The worst thing my alt had ever done was help make the treaty between the Pack and the CWs. Hindsight as it is, I regret it, because the Pack used to be a check on the Balance of the Pride. Now, they’re basically CW lite, with extra flavors of hybrids that the prissy kitties won’t accept because they aren’t cats. Which is fine, save for the fact that now, they’re trying to crack down on non-feline hybrids. I doubt it’s just the UAC pulling for it. CWs could make a near literal killing, particularly killing off the Pack, which, if only kitty hybrids are allowed, pretty much kills off the CWs competition, now doesn’t it? At least the old CWs would ICly fight the Pack in a gang war. But no, you’re all doing it in the background though admins, and not through fair play of IC. And that is truly fucked up.
My alts? Whom are you referring to Ioh? I have three avatars, thats it .. Ayami Imako, Danica Forster (who was MPD and retired a month after I left with Ayami) and Mori Kaligawa who I played in Midian all of four times and was gonna go parish with but then things happened with me and Elise so I flat retired her, and haven’t been on her since..
Oooh I know. You’ve been listening to Ashur. Who tried to claim I was someone else before based off a local conversation (that she didn’t bother to read completely first) she gathered with what I presume was one of her alts as she wasn’t present at the time and herself retracted only minutes after sending out the notecard. So feel free to speak up Ioh .. who else is it you think I am?
Gods you are the most paranoid twisted person I have ever met. For the love of god get a life.
Yeah, paranoid? After you metagamed on me? Please. I just don’t, nor never will trust you, because I know what you do to people. You’ve ruined countless former people, including Nevers, hijacking his job and completely disrespecting him. No, there’s no love loss between you and me fem boy. You’re the one who needs a life, or are you just going to keep going back to Midian until you have yet another breakdown and screw people over again. But hey, that’s what you and the rest of your crew do, is pretend to be nice, then fuck people over. Maybe it’s best you don’t have a life, so you don’t screw up real life, and just keep it to that little world you make for yourself in on SL. Yeah, just stay there in that pretend world off in your microcosmic world. I’m sick of your poison, and if you only ever go to Angel Square and Midian, then good. Means the rest of SL doesn’t have to be infested with your virus.
*snerks* Ioh, you obviously have alot to say so man up and say it to me in world, and bring proof for change. I’m done going back and forth with you on BLs blog. But seriously. Get help. This is ridiculous.
Ioh, why is it your concern if Ayami goes back to Midian anyway? You left, remember? Or at least that’s what you say. Alts, as you’ve stated above, can be a very powerful tool when it comes to situations like this, and I don’t put it past you to still be in Midian.
You can say what you like about me & Ayami, you know NOTHING about us, so keep your comments to yourself. This is about your blatent rage against Midian and the people in it. Ayami and I never interfered in your relationship with Bails, so you be a good little boy and stay out of ours.
Oh, as for Nevers – he was a prick and deserved to go.
tl;dr.
Okay, I did read most of it. The comments got rather “meh” though..
Midian and Angel Square might be its own little world. Second Life is its own little world. The world is its own little world.. you make of it what you want from it, and you don’t bother with the stuff you don’t enjoy. I’m far and long fed up of anything Midian related, but that doesn’t mean I’d stop anyone else from enjoying the place – you just have to remember that like SL and life itself, it’s its own little world.
You get out what you put into it and also long as you’re getting fulfilment and enjoyment from it, then that’s what counts.
On the subject of blogging stuff like there, there’s a pretty smart way of doing it where everyone on the “inside” knows who you’re on about, but by not mentioning names, you can claim all deniability..
http://blog.pradprathivi.com/2009/01/10/how-to-get-over-your-sl-ex/
Life’s more fun when you’re snarky at other people’s expense and they can’t fight back without outing themselves in the process.
I don’t have to ‘man up’ to a nonsensical fakie like you, not Aribeth. For that matter, none of you. So Laters.
Prad. “Life’s more fun when you’re snarky at other people’s expense and they can’t fight back without outing themselves in the process.”
This drama has been ongoing for the last couple of weeks now. For the most, people like Bailey who half the drama was aimed at, have been quiet. Hense my first comment to this blog was praising her for being able to rise above it.
If Ioh has issues with Bailey and Midian and all the rest, okay. He has the right to voice this in his own blog and Flickr. But the fact he has also been lying to suit himself has made the situation ten times worse, with numerous people actually calling him up on his ‘words of wisdom’. These people would also include myself and Ayami, and you can see from the reaction we’ve had in return by Ioh that rather than be civil, he’s took a dig at our personal relationship and Aya’s past in Midian. All subject that have *nothing* to do with Ioh’s primary issues.
I give up commenting here, as my efforts are being blatently wasted on someone who is rather self obsessed and no other opinion matters but his, and who thinks he can just throw around insults without them having any repercussions.
*sneaks a peak at PP’s blog*
I’ve lied about nothing, Ari, you’re just pissed because I deleted yours and Ayami’s posts off my Flickr. And then you snapped at me online when all I was saying was ‘hi.’ Why should I have any respect for you, or Ayami. I already know you both are bitchy and hot heads. And I’m sure have run your mouths behind the scenes plenty. Why I don’t trust ‘privacy’, since I know what back stabbing remarks you both are likely saying.
And it’s not lashing out when it’s true. But it is back stabbing when you toss the shit in the background and in privacy.
But oh well, keep to Midian and Angel Square, and if you don’t want to hear me speak openly about you or Aya, the simple thing to do is to quit ranting about me. Take a deep breath, step back, and then shut up.
You are just a pompous, bitchy ass spoiled girl, and that shows plenty in your responses. Don’t want people to realize that about you, the don’t spew out your mouth you stupid ramblings, and I won’t have any reason to retort back. :p
Yes I am bitchy. Yes I am ‘pompous’ and ’spoiled’. At least my vision of the world isn’t sadly jaded, as yours seems to be. I don’t hate you, Ioh. I just pity you.
Wow… just wow.
Is the only thing you can do is rant and rave, call people names and cast aspersions upon others?
I think I’m usually a good judge of character, and I never particularly liked you. If I was ever polite it was for the mere fact that those I care for, saw something in you. I may have even said something to Dazy regarding this, but… well, it’s been proven really now.
It takes a better magician to fool another… and honestly, I was practicing your tricks in Kindergarten.
One time that I remember which really stands out is when you went full tilt off on Dazy because you thought she left your Group. That was quite a telling moment, don’t you think? …. all over a misunderstanding.
I went far out of my way to not RP with you as much as possible… I recall that in order for MJ to be promoted to Soldier, MJ was told to spar with Ioh. Instead he sparred and trained mostly with Kiri, even though at the time IC she had been demoted at the time.
News flash, dude. You and your alts were not just a joke, you’re the punchline. Many a person had quite a laugh of Cowboy Luke and the possibility of cowboy and indian bed sheets, down to the skin that Ioh and Cicero has/d.
Sorry BL, that this has happened to you, but honestly, it was only a matter of time. It was definitely one of those situations where no one, including you, would have listened to me until it happened. Definitely one of the cases of your happiness trumping my feelings for the partner. You never did come up in conversations, or were part of the joke or punchline. Many though were empathetic and maintained the “as long as she’s happy” stance. Though none were shocked and none are shocked of the recent transpiring situation.
I’ve been in those positions with exes, and it sucks. But one day, the true colours do shine through and the light is so bright it’s blinding.
That all said, I wish no ill will toward you, Ioh. First, what kind of person would I be if I did? Second, who am I to do such a thing? Third, what good would it do in the end, in the grand scheme of things? I can only hope that the next girl does due diligence and hits Google up.
What should be done though, is that you should lose this website. That you even come here and comment, add nothing and detract everything only perpetuates the idea that you can’t let well enough alone. I scanned your blog, and I did not see any replies from Ayami, Aribeth, and either Bailey.
To me, it’s not worth it to come to your home and defecate on your lawn. Your delusions of grandeur and appalling behaviour will eventually catch up with you.
You have shown time after time you have no originality.
Proven time after time that repeating the same behaviour and expecting a different outcome is the definition of madness.
Proven time after time that you need to resort to belittling and name calling to bolster your own point, ego and self-esteem.
But alas, often it’s more fun to watch the fish flap about on land searching for the water itself than it is to place it back in the water.
But until then, I see no end in sight of the caricature of yourself you’re creating.
Best regards.