"You’ve been given a sim of your very own to use for free for one year. However, there are 3 rules. It cannot be residential, it cannot be commercial, and it has to be open to the public. What do you do with it?"

I got excited seeing this question. It’s actually something I tried to do with BaileysReach, the island this blog was actually named in honor of.  BaileysReach was what is now called a Homestead and while it was partially my home, it was also a refuge for anyone who wanted to just get away and relax or escape.  My very good friend Rrishanna Regina landscaped the entire island and it was beautiful.  I hated getting rid of that island but I just couldn’t afford it anymore. So to get a sim tier free… well that would be fun. 

There are so many beautiful sims on the grid I think I’d rather do something totally frivolous.  I’ve loved fairy tales since I was a little girl, especially Cinderella.  If I’m totally honest, I liked the mice the best.   The whole idea that a poor un noticed girl could become a Princess is just about every little girls dream.  So, yeah this is my favorite fairy tale. 

My sim would be all about the fairy tales.  Cinderella, Snow White, Little Red Riding Hood, Sleeping Beauty, and Jack and the Beanstalk.  I know there are hundreds more but it’s only one sim!

I’m a decent builder but there is no way I could properly do these justice by myself so I’d enlist the help of some good friends who are incredibly talented, Prad and Rrish.  Rrish would love the challenge, Prad would laugh at me.  He’d help though, he likes a challenge. 

Once it was all built I’d open it up to the public to just hang out in or even to RP in.  Anyone could come and act out the fairy tale as written or rewrite it for their amusment. 

I’d want to make it a place to have fun, take pictures, explore.  I’d  probably hide some cool freebies all over the sim for people to find.  Like half eaten apples on the snow white side, glass slippers for Cinderella, beans for Jack and little red hoods for Red Riding Hood.  These would be items donated that fit into the theme.  Not so much a hunt but items to help enjoy the sim.

Well there you go… my idea for a sim that’s not residential or commercial.  If anyone reads this and wants to help me make this dream a reality, let me know!  I really do want to do this someday….

This BBBC challenge is a blast, I’m really enjoying it.  I’ve missed writing here and hopefully this is just the kickstart to get back to it.

So, the second topic in the BBBC is what is the perfect day in SL.  This is a tough one because I think I’ve already had the perfect day in SL.  It was the day I married Ioh.  I’ll refrain from being all sappy about it but it really was the most perfect day.

For those of you familiar with Midian City and it’s lag and mandatory crashes you’ll understand this next part.  Actually, most of you should.

The wedding went from start to finish with NO ONE crashing.  Not a soul in the wedding crashed.  We had a full Catholic service/wedding in Midian City on a Sunday night of a holiday weekend and it went without a hitch.  Is there anything more perfect than that?  I don’t think so!

Father Eamon Cale presided over the service and it was beautiful.  Elise Capalini gave the Bride away and Bailey Dazy was Maid of Honor.  The girls decorated the church for me and Ioh and it was beautiful.  I couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful service.

The whole thing was part of RP but Ioh and I are a couple outside of the RP as well and it was wonderful to see Ryker at the wedding.  I love her to death.

The whole day was spent with friends and family and the man I love.  I couldn’t have asked for a better day and can’t imagine any day being more perfect than that one.

There are pictures from the wedding up on my Flickr for anyone who is interested.  If you want to come to Midian and see what it’s all about, give me a shout and I’ll show you around.

Phew, so now I’m caught up on the BBBC, until tomorrow at least!! LOL

Ok, so I’m a day late starting this but I’m sure you’ll all forgive me.  I’ll even do 2 posts to day to make up for it.

I didn’t do this last year and wished I had so I’m going to participate this year.  Perhaps I’ll keep up blogging again after doing this.  So, go here and check it out.  Yesterday’s question which I missed was:

"How long have you been a blogger? How has it enriched your life?"
I’ve been blogging about a year I guess now, maybe a year and a half.  I’ve certainly not been regular about it.  Though for awhile, I wrote something every day.  You do start to run out of topics though.  I’m not a fashion blog so I’m usually just writing about stuff that happens to me in SL.  I’ll stick my nose in to some topics if I think I have something to say. 

Has blogging enriched my life?  That’s kinda tough.  Sometimes I think it has, others I think it’s just another thing I don’t have time for.  When I was writing daily I felt like I was contributing in some small way.  I had a few loyal readers with an occasional spike any time the word ’sex’ showed up.  I haven’t been writing daily and really miss it so this is a great way to  jump start back into it.

If I get a few new readers that’s awesome, and thank you and Welcome to my little corner of the world. ^^ 

Cheers!

oh…. don’t tell anyone but I’m doing this from work and while I can’t read blogs unless they are in my newsfeed or leave a comment, I can write in mine.  Go figure.  So I will leave a comment on Alicia’s blog later when I get home and aren’t behind the great firewall I sit behind everyday.

Yeah I know, the title itself suggests drama.  No drama here but I do want to talk about conflict.  Nothing in particular but how we handle conflict.  What we do when we’re confronted by it what makes some of us gravitate to it and the rest run screaming away.  I’m in the later category if you were wondering.

Ok so we all deal with conflict differently.  There are the "fixers" who can’t stand the idea of those close to them not getting along and try to make the situation better for everyone.  Usually to the detriment of the person trying to fix it as many times they are seen as meddling.

There is the debater who it seems will argue just to do it.  They’ll take a contrary position and keep the conflict going for as long as anyone will let them.  The natural reaction to these folks, drop an anvil on their heads.

Then there is the bully who is in the conflict because they enjoy it.  They get a thrill over the heated exchange and potential for violence.  These folks are in it for the long haul and have no intention of letting anyone off easy.  If you find yourself in a situation with one of these, then tread carefully but get yourself out as soon as you can.

Then there is the liar.  This person will say whatever they want in order to win the argument or to ensure you don’t.  The truth is not in their bag of tricks though they may throw it out now and then.

Every conflict will have one of these individuals in it.  It’s how we deal with the conflict and them that’s important.  Now I will say straight out, I hate conflict.  I will run as far away as I can get from it.  When fleeing is not an option however I turn into ms fixit.  My job in all conflicts is to fix it.  Doesn’t matter what it is, or whether I can do anything about it, I will try to fix it.   When all else fails…. I flee.

Flee or fight.  The 2 basic instincts in all of us.  Depending on the threat one or the other is usually the best choice.  In Midian, you see one of the ‘Shadows’ with their rotating orbs of ocularity(or whatever they call them these days) you run.  Plain and simple.  Me, I see a Wolf in the middle of the street and I walk right up to it.  Silly I know but I still have all of my limbs thank you very much.

I’ve seen a number of ‘conflicts’ in Midian.  Some IC and others OOC.  Most of the OOC stems from IC stuff that someone was unhappy about.  Well, you know what…. It’s not a nice city.  Bad things happen to good people.  And even, sometimes, it’s…. a … suprise!  Yes things do happen that aren’t scripted.  If you want to attack me in Midian, then just do it.  If I don’t have time to RP, I’ll RP out of it.  If you want to know how far you can go with the beating me up, IM me.  I have limits as does everyone else.  I think we need more conflict in Midian that isn’t preplanned for months ahead of time.  That kinda of thing is fine when a lot of people are involved but geez…. can’t we have a bit of surprise?

As I mentioned in a previous post, I want to be more assertive.  Being more assertive will mean more conflicts.  More conflict means I can’t keep ‘fleeing’.  …

I promised I would write here more often so here I am.  I’ve got a few things to talk about today.

It’s getting quiet in Midian.  I would imagine it’s the same all over the grid.  Summer comes and it gets quiet on the grid.  More and more folks are out enjoying the fresh air and sunshine.   Then there are all the college kids who go home and have to get jobs to support their next year of school.  I’ve been in SL for over 2 years and I see the same thing every year.  And every year someone comes out and starts talking about how SL is dying because concurrency is down etc etc.  There is a cycle, this happens every year.  I personally plan to enjoy the fact their are fewer people on the grid.  I plan to enjoy being able to walk through Midian without the rubber band lag effect.

I’m sure there are dozens of things I could write about that are of some importance to those of you  that read these words but I’ve decided to take a different route.  I’m going to write about …. well… me.  Duh, it’s my blog.

I’m not… assertive.  No really I’m not.  Most of you who know me know that I’m not.  Ioh and I have talked about it in relation to some RP in Midian and for whatever reason, I’m just not very assertive.  I should be though.  I want to be. The questions is, can I be?   In RL as well as SL I’m a bit shy really.  Stop laughing, I am. 

I don’t really like crowds, I’ve never liked the bar scene and to be honest, I prefer to be home.  I hate trying to have a conversation in a crowd or even trying to keep up with group chat.  Home is comfortable, it’s mine and I work damn hard to have the money to pay for it.  I should use it!  And so I do.  However, that doesn’t help me be more assertive.  I don’t mean Super Bitch assertive either.  I’m talking about being the girl who is taken seriously when she speaks.  I’m talking about being the girl that others trust enough to follow.  I’m talking about being the girl who stands up front and says, "We go this way" and everyone follows her.

I know it won’t be easy.  It means stepping out of what’s easy and comfortable for me.  I enjoy a challenge though.  This will be one that’s for sure.  In any event, I think it’ll be good for me.

So I’m off on a journey this summer to find  the other me, the stronger one, the more assertive one.  The one who will probably be on a belltower in Midian…. watching.