I’ve been talking about love and sex and the happy bit of being in love and I’ve ignored the crappy part. The part where it ends. The part where you feel like you’ve been kicked around the block and run over by a train it hurts so much. The part where you just want to die.
Yep, been there, done that, got the T-shirt. Or should I say shirts??? *sigh I’m sure we’ve all been there. Breakups are rarely *fun*. Do you talk to your ex? Without spitting in his/her eye of course. 
I don’t. I think I have one muted still. Here’s the thing though, how do you get from *I love you* to *I wish you’d rot in hell!*???
At the beginning of the summer I watched most of my friends pairing off. I was happy for them of course but I just hate being the fifth wheel. So while the summer is quiet anyway I spent a lot of time exploring and learning Photoshop . Now the summer is over and a lot of those relationships are falling apart, new ones forming. Two of my ex’s are blissfully happy now in both SL and RL with the person they dated after me. I think they should both be thanking me. If I hadn’t broken up with him, they wouldn’t have him. Course, if I hadn’t broken up with them they would probably be dead and I’d be in jail for murder so it’s good all around. 
Win win for everyone.
I’ve watched some relationships fall apart that I really thought would be forever and that makes me sad. I see others that will probably implode. That is sad as well. I’ve seen something happen to people when they partner in SL. They get too clingy or possessive or something but they change. I’ve seen friends partner and stay that way for ages. I’ve seen people partner for business reasons. I’ve even seen people partner themselves!
So, partner or not? If you do, why? If you don’t, why not?
Come on… tell me what ya think.
Tags: breakup, love, partnership, SecondLife, sex, sl
One wonders who really knows who you’ll end up with in the end. So, loving is a gamble. I like the saying “Love like you’ve never been hurt before.”
Been a reader of your blog for a while hon, felt like finally commenting in it today
I have a few theories on this one. I think when people keep their relationship to themselves, and it’s thereby private from the vast majority of people who can’t be bothered looking in picks (if the person even gets a mention in the picks that is), then they tend to stay in their happy little private bubble of lurve and intimacy. (And denial about issues in their relationship that other people might have otherwise commented on…)
As soon as it goes in the “partner” section it becomes general knowledge and confirmed – open to criticism and comment from other people. It’s suddenly a very public statement of “this is the one person I want”. It also tends to upset other people who may have been keen on the guy or girl and fooling themselves until that point that they had a chance still, so suddenly there are potentially grumpy 3rd parties involved in a far more real and present sense.
Just my thoughts anyway.
(Now you’re gonna wish I never commented, I have a tendency to leave long comments :p)
Thanks for the comment Landsy! I love getting comments, short or long
Glad to hear you like the blog.
Interesting thought, Landsend. That the act of publicizing the relationship dooms it. I wonder if part of that is because secrets are fun. If keeping the relationship “hidden” adds to the spice and excitement.
How do you get from “i love you” to “i hate you”? Here’s my guess: by expecting the other to be someone that they are not, by thinking that the other SHOULD be doing/feeling something other than what they do/feel. So we become frustrated and disillusioned and then angry when our expectations are mirrored by reality. How’s that for cheap analysis on the fly? LOL
Ahuva I think your spot on.