Thoughtful musings from you both as always

I have to admit I haven’t found the nature of love or friendship to be that much of an issue in SL — I take people at face value in both worlds until they show me otherwise – depending on the nature of the – say — occurence I either 1) Make Serious Note to Self on Said Person 2) cool things down and let the friendship fade away as it probably should 3) call them on the event and then write em off and it that involves muting then so be it. In SL *and* RL.

An area that seems a little more grey but really isn’t (for me) – is – what about people who have treated my loved ones atrociously in either world? They’ve done nothing directly to me — but are they the kind of people i want to associate with in either world? If they can treat the people I love like dirt — how long before it’s my turn? That makes it a pretty simple call for me.

Just some thoughts…

Cheers! M.

Feel free to vent here anytime. I want everyone to feel they can say what’s on their mind here.

Your welcome to pop over to The Reach as well anytime. Some lovely spots to just relax in in the gardens.

*hugs*

okay, that 3rd paragraph demonstrated very nicely how it is not a game and the emotions are very real. i was being a tad unfair, extremely melodramatic, and probably chose the wrong venue as well. LOL. How I feel is accurate for the most part – the rest is undoubtedly totally overstating the situation. Otoh – thanks for giving me a “safe” place to vent.

I have to stop posting before the morning caffeine takes effect…..

I wish I had some pearl of wisdom for you. If I did I probably would have used it myself.

*huge hugs*

I don’t know what to tell you about an underage friend. My thought is that these things always need to be judged on an individual basis. Probably most teens don’t belong inworld. Not to sound totally old-fashioned but I think that they should be doing other things and socializing with peers. There is time enough to move into adult privileges. Having said that – I believe that there ARE certain teens who are more than capable of handling SL and there is nothing wrong from that stand-point. TOS. I don’t know. I’m still so new to this. I have one friend who I think would say that absolutely you should abide by the TOS. I have another friend who would say that it is not your responsibility to enforce an arbitrary rule. /me smiles ruefully. I’m not helping, I know.

Like love, friendship has many layers. There are friends whom I trust, friends whose company I enjoy but I don’t trust them with anything that I hold important, friends with whom I share one particular interest, and so on. I can have fun with a liar (party, go to an event, things like that) but I would never classify that person as a true friend. I’m fairly non-confrontational so I probably wouldn’t call them on it. But I would always remember and would act accordingly: not give them anything of myself and take what they say with a grain of salt.

Here’s one for you: What do you do about a friend who claims that the two of you are good and close friends, and is willing to come occasionally and hang with you and your friends, but never invites you to join them with their friends or join them at other events? You KNOW that they think you are close and dear. You both IM forever on all sorts of subjects. But you feel like some sort of embarrassing relation who has to be hidden away.